Even as one with some knowledge of civil law, I can say that the most difficult parties to help, and usually the most disappointed at the end, are those who do not wish to consider compromise of any kind, who do not treat their opponents (even those whose positions make little sense to them) with respect, and who are all about "the principle of the thing". If this is a bad proposition in a civil matter, how much more should we seek to avoid this as believing Catholics, who are called to charity and to "make up what is lacking" in the sufferings of Christ? And when, moreover, we are dealing with our lawful pastors and prelates, however errant they may be in this matter?
I don't wish to be hypocritical, it is difficult to be patient and kind in the face of injustice, and I fail as often as anyone. And I know that in so many places there is an absolute persecution of anyone, priest or faithful, who shows a partiality to the Extraordinary Form. After a long time of disappointment, it can be difficult to hope things will improve.
For these reasons, I thought I would offer just a few "money" quotes from the great Saint of Charity, St. Francis de Sales. I think these quotes would be good food for reflection before engaging in the effort to approach one's pastor. The wisdom and application of these quotations will no doubt occur to you:
There was never an angry man that thought his anger unjust.
Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.